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In fairytale stories, stepmoms are often the villain. Thankfully, real stepmoms don’t lock anyone in towers and are usually just trying to do the best they can! It can be hard entering into a ready-made family, but many stepmoms accept the challenge with open arms and hearts full of love.
You may have a close relationship with her, or she may be brand new. Whether your stepmom is a bonus mom, your only mom, or someone new to your family that came along when you were older, it’s important to show her how much you care and appreciate that she is part of your family.
Are you in need of a meaningful stepmom gift for Mother’s Day or her birthday? Any of these gifts for stepmoms are sure to bring a smile to her face, and just might make you the favorite stepchild! Take that, Grimm brothers.
Thoughtful Gifts for Stepmom
1. Necklace
Jewelry always makes an excellent gift for women, and stepmoms are no exception. These two beautiful necklaces include thoughtful messages to make sure your stepmom knows just how much you mean to her.
The first one features interlocking rings that can be finished with gold, rose gold, or silver. The inscription is made out to a “bonus mom,” which is such a nice sentiment for a stepmother.
The second necklace has an elegant sunshine pendant, available in gold or silver. It also has a touching message about how she shines the brightest. Either of these meaningful gifts are sure to make your stepmom feel appreciated.
Get it from RocoJo
2. Handwritten Letter Blanket
No one can ever have too many blankets to snuggle under when the weather turns cold! The greatest thing about this option is the personalization it offers. You can write your step mom something heartfelt and have it printed onto the blanket in a special handwritten font.
The blanket will not only keep her warm but warm her heart with your affectionate words meant just for her. Awww.
Get it from UncommonGoods
3. Tea Subscription
Tea can be such a thoughtful and comforting gift. If your stepmom likes to drink tea, consider gifting her this tea subscription. It includes four different teas each month, so she can enjoy the classics and discover some new favorites. It also comes with reusable tea filters, which any tea lover would appreciate!
4. Custom Family Portrait
One of the best ways to make your stepmom feel like part of the family is by including her in a family portrait! This gesture will touch her heart and prove that you think of her as family.
This custom family portrait is such a special gift idea. The price includes a digital download, which you can print or share with friends and family however you like. A custom art print is a cute way to pay tribute to your family, whatever that may look like. Your stepmom is sure to love it.
Get it from LovekokiGifts
5. Experience
If you’re looking for a practical gift your stepparent is sure to use, you can’t go wrong with experience gifts!
People receive stuff all of the time, but giving an experience gives the gift of special memories. Maybe there’s somewhere that your stepmom has always wanted to go but never had the opportunity. You can pick something that you know she’ll love or get an e-gift card, which will let her choose the experience that she wants.
Either way, this one is a thoughtful gift for someone who may not always buy things for themselves but should get a chance to do what they love anyway.
Get it from VirginExperiences
6. Personalized Stationery
The art of letter-writing is something of a lost tradition, but if your step mom still likes writing the occasional letter, she’ll appreciate this useful gift.
This personalized stationery is so classy that it will make her want to write letters again. By adding her name to the cards, you are giving her something truly unique that will make her smile. You’ll probably start getting more mail too!
Get it from Minted
7. Leather Makeup Pouch
Going fishing for your makeup in your purse is so annoying. The answer is this cute leather makeup pouch!
It comes in eight different colors, so you are sure to find an option your stepmom will like. This useful little clutch is made from full-grain leather and has a wide metal zipper so she can find whatever she needs quickly. You can even personalize it with her initials, hand-painted or monogrammed.
Get it from Leatherology
8. Custom Gin & Tonic Glass or Wine Glasses
Having your own custom drinkware is so classy. Depending on what your stepmom drinks and her preference of glassware, there are two options here. The first is a gin and tonic glass, but you can really use it for any mixed drink that you like. It can hold 26.5 ounces of her favorite spirits. You can personalize it with your stepmom’s initial and name.
The other option is the classic stemless wine glasses. They also come in a set of four – perfect for entertaining. These are slightly smaller and hold 21 ounces each. Customize these with your stepmom’s three initials to make them even more special.
Get it from HomeWetBar
9. Custom Journal
There’s no such thing as too many notebooks!
If your stepmom likes to write, a personalized journal is a great gift for her to keep all her great ideas together. Even if she isn’t as into writing, Minted has plenty of other options such as address books, monthly planners, and weekly planners. You can add a picture and customized text to make it a truly personalized gift.
Get it from Minted
10. Photo Frame
This beautiful picture frame will warm her heart and show her how much you appreciate her influence in your life.
The wooden picture frame features the quote, “Thank you for loving me as your own” and has space for two 4 x 6-inch pictures. Make sure to add those pictures before wrapping up your frame to make your gift complete! She will be sure to display it for years to come.
Get it from Amazon
11. Photo Book
If you can’t decide on just two favorite pictures for the gift above, consider creating an entire photo book to give to your stepmom. Whether you’ve lived with her your entire life or she’s a new addition to your life, creating a personalized photo book will go a long way in making her feel like a part of the family.
Get it from ArtifactUprising
12. Hummingbird Feeder
What is it about parents who love to bird-watch? I know mine do!
This hummingbird feeder is the perfect gift for a step mom who loves to watch birds. Hummingbirds are highly entertaining to watch, and this is a great feeder to attract multiple birds at once. It is constructed like a Ferris wheel and has three spots for birds to perch and enjoy the yummy nectar.
Get it from UncommonGoods
13. Candle
I haven’t met many moms (or stepmoms) out there who don’t love candles. These classy options are great gift ideas for the special bonus mom in your life.
The first one by BeFoxish on Etsy is even geared toward a stepmom! It has a lovely personalized label that describes a “stepped up mom” as someone who loves you from her heart and not out of obligation. It comes in three different scents: vanilla bean, comfort spice, and sea breeze.
The Voluspa candle from Anthropologie is another excellent option. This coconut wax candle has a 50-hour burn time so she will get to enjoy it for many lightings. Choose from five different scent options including Baltic amber, Goji tarocco orange, and more.
Get it from BeFoxish
Get it from Voluspa
14. Italian Dinner Gift Basket
When it comes to gifts for stepmom, you can’t go wrong with food and wine. This gourmet gift basket includes everything she needs for a fun time, including Chianti, smoked gouda, Finocchiona, and tomato bruschetta. This delicious spread even comes with a decorative tray she can repurpose later on.
Get it from GourmetGiftBaskets
15. Why I’m Grateful Book
This personalized book is such a cute way to show your bonus mom just how much you care about her. It may be hard coming up with the words to show her on your own, but that’s where this book comes in.
This fill-in-the-blank love journal will help guide you with just the right things to write. By the time you finish it, you will have a meaningful gift for your stepmother while also reminding yourself of why she means so much to you!
Get it from Amazon
16. Phenomenal Woman Tote Bag
You can never have too many tote bags. I always seem to have trouble finding any of mine when I most need them. Plus, this 100% cotton tote is just adorable, with pretty hibiscus flowers and the text that reads, “phenomenal woman.” What a perfect way to describe your stepmom!
17. Ring Dish
When you have jewelry that you wear often, a jewelry dish is far more convenient than a jewelry box for keeping your items safe. Rather than using some boring or plain ring dish, check out this handmade ceramic one. Not only is it a thoughtful gift, but it also has an inscription guaranteed to make your stepmom cry. It references how she loved you as her own and that she was a gift herself. She’ll think of you every time she uses it!
18. Ceramic Coffee Mug
I’m of the opinion that you can never have too many coffee mugs. You may be familiar with the ones that say “best mom ever,” but have you ever seen one like this? This mug carries the words, “best bonus mom ever”! This practical present lets her know that you are thinking of her. We also love the stirrer and lid, to help her make her coffee just the way she likes it, then keep it nice and warm.
Get it from Amazon
19. Spa Gift Box
Bonus moms put in a lot of hard work, too, and rarely take time for self-care. This spa gift box set is the perfect way to help your stepmom have a bit of a spa experience without leaving home.
This gift box includes different products to help her relax, such as a lavender candle, lavender soap, and a rose petal bath bomb. If she is looking for a more uplifting experience, she could throw in the orange bath bomb. The peppermint-shea lip balm will keep her lips soft. You can even include an engraved wooden heart to express your heartfelt thanks for all she does.
20. Spa Gift Card
If you want to give your stepmom a more immersive spa experience, give her this spa gift card. The card is accepted at over 9,000 locations in the U.S., so she is sure to find one near her where she can take a day to pamper herself. A gift card also ensures that she will actually make the time to go, since it’s already paid for!
Get it from Spaweek
21. Personalized Gold Dipped Vase and Flowers
These two gifts will go beautifully together. Pick out some of your bonus mom’s favorite flowers and design a gorgeous bouquet just for her. Then, take things up a few notches by arranging them in this gold-dipped vase. Engrave her initial onto the vase for an extra personal touch.
Sweet Surprises for Special Stepmoms
Make sure your stepmom feels appreciated with one of the gifts above. Whether it’s a Christmas gift, a Mother’s Day gift, or a birthday gift, remembering your bonus mom during those special occasions is important. Making her feel like part of the family will go a long way!
