What does falling out of love mean?
Falling out of love means you no longer feel in love with your partner. This usually occurs after a couple has failed to nurture their relationship over time. Even though a couple has fallen out of love, they can still fall back in love because love is fluid.
Falling Out Of Love: Top Five Reasons
2-Receiving Critiques. A second cause making you feel like you’re falling out of love is distress from critiques. Most of us don’t like to get critiqued and some of us think marriage shouldn’t even include critiques. Well it does. Part of having a good marriage is giving and receiving constructive feedback. That’s iron sharpening iron. Are you open to your partner’s constructive feedback or do you get defensive? Do you think your partner should just accept you for how you are? That’s not realistic. To be a good partner, you have to be willing to make mild to moderate changes to accommodate your partner. Getting constructive feedback can be painful because it’s difficult to hear about our blind spots but it’s vital to a healthy marriage.
5-Not Enduring Your Needs Being Unmet. The fifth way marriage can cause distress is it usually includes periods where your needs aren’t met. Perhaps you’re going through a winter season in your marriage so your partner is unwilling to meet your needs. Perhaps your partner has unresolved childhood trauma so they’re unable to meet your needs. My wife went through sexual trauma growing up so avoided all sexual contact during the early phase of our marriage, which was extremely difficult for me as the high libido partner. Perhaps your partner is going through a stressful time or illness in their life so they are unable to meet your needs. Marriage usually involves going through periods where your needs won’t be met and that can cause significant distress.
In summary, the top five ways marriage can cause distress and make you feel like you’re falling out of love is from not sharing power, receiving critiques, not filling your partner’s love bucket, not managing conflicts well, and not enduring seasons where your needs aren’t met. Falling out of love is often the result of emotional strain from these five areas. If you’re faint of heart, you should have never gotten married because marriage requires resiliency. You need to have a fighting spirit and tenacity to not give up because marriage is going to wear you down at times. Don’t quit. Instead, start fighting harder for your marriage. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. Maybe you’re tempted to give up right now in your marriage. Don’t! As long as you have a willing partner who’s taking ownership for their part and open to seeking help, do not give up. Remember that pain is a part of the process of marriage and it will only make you stronger. When you go through pain, you grow. Think about lifting weights. When you lift weights your muscles are broken down and eventually get stronger. Likewise, in marriage. Every time you experience distress in marriage, you’re getting broken down, which is shaping you into a stronger person and partner.
Check out the articles below for more information.
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